One hears this statement quite often. I was delivered a dose of 'Oh you are not the same; you have changed!' recently. Today I had time to give it some thought which I would like to present for general public opinion.
I partially agree that I have changed a bit. But that is a relative statement. Everyone around me changed so I had to adapt. It's a natural human tendency to adapt to what I term as a hostile environment. Everyone has a natural environment where one can be themselves. When this natural environment changed, I had to change along with it. The factors which allowed me to be myself were changed. It's like, if you are playing a game, your game-play differs with respect to the players you play with. You would not play it at full potential against a 3 year old. Same rule applies here. Its not the people who change. Its the environment that forces them to change. I cannot be expected to behave the way I do around people I am not comfortable with. Once the comfort level changes, or in this case, diminishes, then I can't possibly be myself. Not because I am worried about something but I just won't be fun. It won't have the same feeling as when I am with my friends.
Change is never welcomed. Good or bad, you have to adapt to the change which turns out to be quite troublesome. The worst is to be the cause of somebody's change. We have seen many people who try to mold others in an image they would be more comfortable with. But in the process you disallow the person to be their own original unique personality. This is quite apparent in modern relationships where girls are known to try and mold their boyfriends into ideal guys. Boys need to be boys and people need to be themselves. Only then can we truly call ourselves unique. Cause if you're not unique, then life won't be as much fun anymore.
I partially agree that I have changed a bit. But that is a relative statement. Everyone around me changed so I had to adapt. It's a natural human tendency to adapt to what I term as a hostile environment. Everyone has a natural environment where one can be themselves. When this natural environment changed, I had to change along with it. The factors which allowed me to be myself were changed. It's like, if you are playing a game, your game-play differs with respect to the players you play with. You would not play it at full potential against a 3 year old. Same rule applies here. Its not the people who change. Its the environment that forces them to change. I cannot be expected to behave the way I do around people I am not comfortable with. Once the comfort level changes, or in this case, diminishes, then I can't possibly be myself. Not because I am worried about something but I just won't be fun. It won't have the same feeling as when I am with my friends.
Change is never welcomed. Good or bad, you have to adapt to the change which turns out to be quite troublesome. The worst is to be the cause of somebody's change. We have seen many people who try to mold others in an image they would be more comfortable with. But in the process you disallow the person to be their own original unique personality. This is quite apparent in modern relationships where girls are known to try and mold their boyfriends into ideal guys. Boys need to be boys and people need to be themselves. Only then can we truly call ourselves unique. Cause if you're not unique, then life won't be as much fun anymore.
